This is a long overdue post. The only time off I have to update this blog is at night when my lil lady has gone to bed. But that little time off is so precious, I’d rather do nothing and not move at all (not even to the loo). Being a full-time mom with no help requires dedication in multitasking. I am still managing FIQS while a new brand called Funky Pencils was born. Phew! So, by the time the sun goes down, I’m already exhausted.
Months passed by, and I better update this blog before she turns five. LOL
Six months old
Here’s the initial introduction of solid food to Arya! I was excited and nervous at the same time. Nervous that I can’t keep up since Arya is still breastfed. She is also being deeply attached to the point that when I was breastfeeding her to sleep, she won’t let go off my teat even after she fell asleep. If I let go, she’d be wide awake, and I wouldn’t be able to put her back to sleep. Day after day, and night after night. It was agonizing for first time mothers like me, but I know I had to find a way to endure this precious moment being a mother to a child.
So, the only time I can I find to prep the meals is during the weekend when I have her father at home. Literally, I would have two hours for each time when she is awake to prepare the following week’s meals for Arya and myself before her next feeding time. And if I didn’t manage to prepare on time, I have to continue after her nap again. Same cycle, every weekend.
Introducing solids to Arya was interesting for the both of us. The key here is not giving up when she didn’t like it. Well, obviously to babies the first taste will always new to their taste buds and weird at the same time. Just like how I used to hate peanut butter. Eventually, after third and fourth attempt, she started to enjoy it. The satisfaction and joy are priceless, especially when she has a big appetite for the meals coming out from my very own kitchen!
When she hits six months, I also decided to sleep train her because I can no longer bear sleeping like a wood log unable to move a single inch because my teat is in her mouth. It’s not a quality sleep for her and me.
I did my research and read “Healthy sleep habits, happy child” by Marc Weissbluth, and the book helped me tremendously on how to sleep train her. The first few nights were heart-wrenching; she actually cried for about an hour before she fell to sleep. And in that period, ignoring her weeping is not an enjoyable moment to a young mother. I felt like I am being cruel to my baby. But you know what, we both needed that quality of sleep. It was for her own good.
Seven months old
I read about baby led weaning (BLW) and gave it a try. It was pretty simple where all I had to do was steam it; no puree needed. The only extra work was cleaning up her mess. With BLW, she is able to feel different textures of food at the same time she was learning to grasp and feed herself. This is significant for her gross motor stability. Explore the world with all your senses baby!
In the long run, the ultimate goal is for us to be able to gather around the table at mealtimes with everyone enjoying the same food. No picky eater in the house. Fantastic! But the sad news is that she’s not gaining the right amount of weight (below average according to her growth chart). Therefore, I still have to feed her while she feeds herself.
Sleeping updates: I’m proud to say that she’s already sleeping in her own room. Sleep training was the wisest decision I’ve made coz if I were to wait till she is a bit bigger, it would have been tougher to sleep train her. The best age would be four months old before she knows how to protest. The rule here is to be consistent and persistent. Allowing her to cheat even one day will ruin everything and all that effort will go down the drain. That ain’t gonna happen!
Eight months old
As she gets older, her growth rate becomes slower; that means her appetite will also be smaller. I have to accept that she’s not a big eater and remind myself not to push her limits. As long as she’s healthy and happy, that should be enough. Do you agree?
Sleeping updates: Sleeping pattern changes every month for babies. This time, she no longer takes her last nap, which makes her waking time longer (from a two-hour gap to a three-hour gap before her next nap). Although she sleeps on her own at night, I still breastfeed her to sleep during the day. I actually don’t mind being glued to her simply because this sticky lil baby won’t be sticky forever. I have come to accept that I cannot run errands or do any work other than paying 110% attention to Arya.
What I’ve learned from the past eight months is not to be a perfectionist when it comes to taking care of a baby. Everything won’t go as planned, and I should just take it easy. Sounds simple but I will do my best.